I really haven’t meant to make this blog all about men and dating and online dating. Truly. But stories keep coming up and I just can’t help but write about them.
As I said a couple of posts ago, I have dived back into the online dating scene – both Match.com and Chemistry.com . A few days ago I got an email from what looked like a good prospect – darling smile, tall, seemed smart and outgoing. I wrote him back.
Tonight I got an email back from him that said, “hi amy. thanks for replying. and, thank you for the compliment. you’re very attractive and obviously very intelligent. (i suppose we could be a power couple 
What part of Oregon? (a few sentences about himself and his job) Hope your ‘long’ weekend wasn’t too bad stuck at work. Have a great time in oregon, if i don’t hear from you. and maybe, we could meet up for a drink sometime, and see if we can’t strike up a friendship. the x-bar in centruy city is cool.”
This is a pretty nice, standard email, right? Nothing too alarming or creepy or offputting, huh?
Except for one thing.
My name isn’t Amy.
I don’t really know what to say about this. He caught all the other details of my emails, but he messed up my name. Is this a fatal crime? I just don’t know. I feel like I have stricken people from my online dating life for far less grave offenses. But his smile is really cute…
So, I leave the decision to YOU, dear readers. Do I give this one a chance? Please cast your votes! My dating fate lies in your very capable hands…
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i would probably give him another chance BUT…I’d definitely let him know it wasn’t cool that he didn’t get my name right, but in a funny or nice way if possible.
i’d email him back and say, “Enjoyed your email. You seem nice. But, man, I haven’t been called Amy in years!!! You know why? Oh, yeah, that’s right. It’s because my name ain’t Amy, buddy!”
People make mistakes especially when it comes to names, I, for one, call co-workers by wrong names or i make their short names longer, i.e. calling my co-worker “Ken”, “Kenny”.
I’d give him another chance.
I’m with Kara – give him another chance.
Although it is kinda random to just call you by the wrong name. But nothing to take personally, as he doesn’t know you at all.
Hm… tough call.
On the one hand, he’s probably e-mailing several women on Chemistry.com, including one named Amy, which would make the mistake an understandable oversight.
On the other hand, he’s probably e-mailing several women on Chemistry.com, including one named Amy, whose name stuck in his mind more than yours.
I guess it would depend on how cute his smile really is!
Btw, points off to Mr. Smile for saying “strike up a friendship.” Is it a date or isn’t it–you already have one of those “friendships” thankyouverymuch (even if your “friend” lives 1000 miles away).
Thanks for weighing in, ladies! Since the vote was unanimous, it made my decision easy. I wrote him back and I began the email with, “Hi (Mr. Smile), good to hear from you again! Though “Amy” is probably disappointed that she hasn’t heard from you – I’m (Singlefabulous).
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he totally gets another shot. knowing people’s names – totally overrated.