Single/Hypocrite

I recently posted about how I just wanted to meet someone organically instead of online. I’ve also written about how if there is an eligible bachelor within a hundred-mile radius, I will be on it like white on rice (is that an offensive expression? If so, sorry – was just the first cliche that popped into mind).

Anyway, as it turns out, a real-life, non-Internet guy that I met many months ago has asked me out on what may or may not be a date. And truth be told, I don’t really know what to do with myself.

Here’s the backstory. After my last BF dumped me in August, I decided that it was time to take time for myself and get back to the things I like to do most. One of those things happens to be speaking Spanish — I studied it practically my whole life and I love it. To that end, I joined this local Spanish language group. There are groups in L.A., Long Beach and Pasadena, and the groups do crossover events.

The first event I went to was at LACMA, and it was a Latin American Art Exhibit. It was a crossover event for the LA and Long Beach groups, and the guy in queston, “JK,” is the leader of the Long Beach group. He was in charge of checking everyone in, and I thought he was cute. (He actually bears a striking resemblance to my ex-fiance! But he’s in his mid-30s.) He and I ended up chatting quite a bit. He is very nice, but my first impression of him is that he was a little….bland?

At the LACMA event, JK told me about the next event he was planning, and I ended up going to it. At that event, I met a guy who was younger than me, who I hung out with a few times but he clearly wanted to date and I didn’t and…awkward. Eventually I just blew Young Guy off, which I felt bad about but didn’t know how else to handle it, but the fallout of that (combined with my work/ personal schedule) was that I have not attended a single event since.

Still, ever since that, JK and I have been emailing each other. Always in Spanish, always friendly. We talk about what we’ve been up to, he invites me to the events he’s planning, I never go (doh!) Before the holidays I thought to myself, “Here’s a perfectly nice guy right under my nose, maybe I’m missing something here” so I invited him to go to LACMA (I had tickets to the Dali exhibit) but he was out of town. We talked about getting together after he got back from vacation a few weeks ago, but as my dear readers know, I have been a bit, um…distracted. And frankly, this guy clearly doesn’t give me butterflies, or I wouldn’t keep forgetting about him over and over again!

So after I forgot to respond to his last email (doh again!) a week or 2 went by, and then today I got an email asking if I like flamenco and inviting me to go with him to a flamenco show at UCLA in 2 weeks that he has tickets for.

I really can’t see any reason not to go with him. Just because I don’t have a burning desire to jump his bones, that doesn’t mean we can’t hang out, right? Or is it wrong to go on a pseudo-date if I don’t feel a spark?