Dear, dear readers, it feels like it’s been such a long week already and it’s only Tuesday! The happy news is, our trial started today so now it’s going and there’s a sense of momentum. It’s going to be a long 2 weeks and we have our work cut out for us, but it’s also great learning. Today we spent the whole day arguing the motions in limine (for the non lawyers, they are motions to exclude certain categories of evidence) so we didn’t even get to the jury selection, but tomorrow the prospective jurors come in and we start pickin’!
Anyway, I’m sure I’ll be giving lots more updates over the next 2 weeks, but I know the law stuff isn’t the interesting stuff to most of you. And I’ve been holding out on spilling the beans about this, but I’m giving in.
I’ve met a boy.
I am still pretty firmly of the superstition that if I write down here what I’m feeling and thinking about this, it will somehow jinx it completely. But I have to say, this boy seems to be something different. We have some major chemistry, and not just in the physical sense either. On our 1st date, we met at a local pub at about 8 pm and closed the bar down, just talking. Not even an awkward moment. And then…I drove him to his car and we made out in the car for 45 minutes! I know…who does that, right? It was funny and cute in that high school sort of way …
The next date we went to a wine bar, then went for tapas and again, closed down the place talking. And again…the car makeout. (I had a feeling what would happen if I invited him upstairs.) And then, on the third date, after Friday night drinks we progressed to a sleepover.
When we went out last time, on Sunday night, I got a feeling I haven’t had in a long time. We went to dinner, then I pulled up to drop him at his place and he leaned in and started kissing me. I said “are we seriously going to do the car makeout again?” He started laughing and then invited me upstairs. He gave me a tour of his (darling) apartment and then we progressed to the bedroom.
When we were kissing I seriously felt giddy. Real, honest to goodness butterflies. At one point he laughed and asked me if I was laughing at him, and I told him the truth – that I felt like a giggly schoolgirl. It just felt so good and….normal. And my dear readers know that “normal” has not been a word to describe my recent guy situations.
At the end of the night we were snuggling and he was half asleep but he was kissing my face and nose and it was really cute. And I thought Yeah…I like this boy.
The one thing is that we are both really busy with work and he travels a lot for work, and so, despite what I’ve described, things are going slowly, which I suppose is good. But I have had to do the follow up at least a portion of the time. When I really like someone, I want to call them or email them. But I also don’t want to come on too strong, and I think that if helikes me, he should call me.
What do you think, dear readers?
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I’ve been awake for a while now
you’ve got me feelin like a child now
cause every time I see your bubbly face
I get the tingles in a silly place
It starts in my toes
and I crinkle my nose
wherever it goes I always know
that you make me smile
please stay for a while now
just take your time
wherever you go
The rain is fallin on my window pane
but we are hidin in a safer place
under covers stayin dry and warm
you give me feelings that I adore
It starts in my toes
make me crinkle my nose
wherever it goes
i always know
that you make me smile
please stay for a while now
just take your time
wherever you go
What am I gonna say
when you make me feel this way
I just……..mmmmmm
It starts in my toes
make me crinkle my nose
wherever it goes
i always know
that you make me smile
please stay for a while now
just take your time
wherever you go
I’ve been asleep for a while now
You tucked me in just like a child now
Cause every time you hold me in your arms
I’m comfortable enough to feel your warmth
It starts in my soul
And I lose all control
When you kiss my nose
The feelin shows
Cause you make me smile
Baby just take your time now
Holdin me tight
Where ever, where ever, where ever you go
Where ever, where ever, where ever you go
Where ever you go, I’ll always know
Cause you make me smile here, just for a while
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Yay!! That sounds exciting. The beginning of relationships are always so fun – the newness of it all, the making out, etc. I’m happy for you!
As for the follow-up? Hmm. I think it is probably up to both people. You should do some, he should do some. I’m HORRENDOUS at that kind of thing, because I’m always worried about being a pest and coming on too strong. I usually just let the guy do all that work. But, I know that in doing so, it can leave the guy wondering what you are thinking, and I think you want him to know that you like him. So if I were you, I would hold off on calling him every day or something like that, but just make sure to keep in touch. And emails/texts are a nice and painless way to reach out without being overbearing. One guy I dated, I only saw him about once a week, and he would usually call me a couple of times a week, but if I started feeling insecure about it, I would come up with some reason to email him, and that usually made me feel better — so I knew he wasn’t trying to drop of the face of the earth and avoid me.
I’m sure you two will develop some kind of rhythm that you both feel comfortable with. And follow his lead – some guys are just not really into lengthy or numerous phone calls.
Good luck!
Oh, and good luck with your trial!!
I’m happy for you too! I agree with J about the follow-up phone call thing. Eventually you guys will develop a rhythm and you’ll find out if he’s into phone calling a lot or not.
So happy for you and so glad you’re bringing New Guy out of the closet!
Don’t stress about the contact thing — it sounds like he likes you and that’s all good.
Can’t wait for more trial updates . . . thinking good thoughts for you! Don’t forget, you’re undefeated