Comments on: It’s Hard At The End Of The Day http://singlefabulous.wordpress.com/2008/07/06/its-hard-at-the-end-of-the-day/ Just another single and fabulous girl in Los Angeles Mon, 30 Nov 2009 02:50:24 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: K. http://singlefabulous.wordpress.com/2008/07/06/its-hard-at-the-end-of-the-day/#comment-352 K. Wed, 16 Jul 2008 09:51:26 +0000 http://singlefabulous.wordpress.com/?p=79#comment-352 "Recently, I have felt sad or anxious so much of the time that it’s hard to recall not feeling this way. I will have fun times, but there is always a heaviness and a darkness lurking there in the back of my mind that I can never quite let go of. I don’t remember the last time I felt truly happy in any lasting way. I will have happy days and then they are followed by unhappy nights. And I want to be happy. I want it so much I can taste it. It just feels like it’s always slightly out of my reach." -- I can relate to that. Thank you for posting this. I have been feeling this way lately. I have been trying to feel happy, but would always end up sad or alone by night. I wish you all the best. K. “Recently, I have felt sad or anxious so much of the time that it’s hard to recall not feeling this way. I will have fun times, but there is always a heaviness and a darkness lurking there in the back of my mind that I can never quite let go of. I don’t remember the last time I felt truly happy in any lasting way. I will have happy days and then they are followed by unhappy nights. And I want to be happy. I want it so much I can taste it. It just feels like it’s always slightly out of my reach.” — I can relate to that. Thank you for posting this. I have been feeling this way lately. I have been trying to feel happy, but would always end up sad or alone by night. I wish you all the best.

K.

]]> By: cmajor7 http://singlefabulous.wordpress.com/2008/07/06/its-hard-at-the-end-of-the-day/#comment-339 cmajor7 Sat, 12 Jul 2008 01:09:25 +0000 http://singlefabulous.wordpress.com/?p=79#comment-339 I'm sorry to have read about your uncle's passing, and your loss, but you write eloquently about it. He'd be proud of you. I’m sorry to have read about your uncle’s passing, and your loss, but you write eloquently about it. He’d be proud of you.

]]> By: geekhiker http://singlefabulous.wordpress.com/2008/07/06/its-hard-at-the-end-of-the-day/#comment-330 geekhiker Mon, 07 Jul 2008 19:35:48 +0000 http://singlefabulous.wordpress.com/?p=79#comment-330 Parents worry. It's what they do. If mine are any guide, it seems that they always find something to fret about, even when it's just a pittance. It's what they do, a habit they can't break themselves from. I hope that the therapy puts you on a path to a happier place. I can't say I'm there all the time myself (Charlotte Harris recently described my blog as "melancholy", and I suppose she's right), so I know how you feel. Sorry for the short comment, but I really don't know what else to say. I know how you feel and where you've been, and those of us who read you will, naturally, always be willing to listen. Parents worry. It’s what they do. If mine are any guide, it seems that they always find something to fret about, even when it’s just a pittance. It’s what they do, a habit they can’t break themselves from.

I hope that the therapy puts you on a path to a happier place. I can’t say I’m there all the time myself (Charlotte Harris recently described my blog as “melancholy”, and I suppose she’s right), so I know how you feel.

Sorry for the short comment, but I really don’t know what else to say. I know how you feel and where you’ve been, and those of us who read you will, naturally, always be willing to listen.

]]> By: kara http://singlefabulous.wordpress.com/2008/07/06/its-hard-at-the-end-of-the-day/#comment-329 kara Mon, 07 Jul 2008 14:53:31 +0000 http://singlefabulous.wordpress.com/?p=79#comment-329 I wish with a post like this I could say something meaningful and thoughtful. But I will say thank you for sharing...and we're always here to listen! As for therapy, I'm all for it. Four years ago I pretty much had a breakdown due to job and work and relationship things. I was in a very BAD way -- not suicidal or not even acting manic and impulsive, just very, very down. I couldn't seem to get happy and stay that way. I went to therapy and it saved me. Literally and figuratively. I cannot even express to you how much I am grateful I finally got the nerve to go. I do want to add this -- I don't know how much research you've done on the therapist you're going to see but if, for some reason, it doesn't feel right after a few visits, don't give up on therapy completely. Find a therapist who you can get along with and a type of therapy that works for you, i.e. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, REBT, etc. I wish with a post like this I could say something meaningful and thoughtful.

But I will say thank you for sharing…and we’re always here to listen!

As for therapy, I’m all for it. Four years ago I pretty much had a breakdown due to job and work and relationship things. I was in a very BAD way — not suicidal or not even acting manic and impulsive, just very, very down. I couldn’t seem to get happy and stay that way.

I went to therapy and it saved me. Literally and figuratively. I cannot even express to you how much I am grateful I finally got the nerve to go.

I do want to add this — I don’t know how much research you’ve done on the therapist you’re going to see but if, for some reason, it doesn’t feel right after a few visits, don’t give up on therapy completely. Find a therapist who you can get along with and a type of therapy that works for you, i.e. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, REBT, etc.

]]> By: Sarah http://singlefabulous.wordpress.com/2008/07/06/its-hard-at-the-end-of-the-day/#comment-328 Sarah Mon, 07 Jul 2008 14:20:17 +0000 http://singlefabulous.wordpress.com/?p=79#comment-328 SF - *hugs* - Of course there is no 'right' thing to say, but I can sympathize. I feel that way too and can't quite figure out why (and you are right, no man can fix it...I have one of those and he doesn't help much with the restlessness). I am proud of you for seeking help and am interested to know how that goes if you don't mind sharing. The differences between you and your uncle (I think, because you didn't say otherwise) are that you know when to seek help, you know happiness doesn't come from a significant other (or five), and you are able to share how you're feeling with others, even if it's only on a blog (which is sometimes better, because you can write uncensored and get some unbiased responses). I try to take heart in the fact that I think there's a lot of pressure from the media and society in general to "be happy." I'm not entirely sure that's reality, but it seems to be on the cover of every magazine lately (as if Cosmopolitan holds the secret to life). Honestly, how can anyone "be happy" with all that's going on in the world? Sometimes I think happiness is a somewhat deluded marketing ploy; it's the human condition to experience an entire range of emotions. Personally I am working more toward being satisfied; at the end of the day, I'd like to feel like I helped people at work, I have people I love in my life, I got to spend some time doing things I love (even if it's just cross-stitching...try it sometime...so peaceful and relaxing...and productive and results-oriented...it satisfies that whole lawyer in me!), and if there's any problems, I did something proactive toward resolving them. Sorry, not trying to take over your blog, but I just wanted you to know that you're definitely not alone, you're definitely not crazy, and you definitely have tons of good things to live for, even if you can't always see them through the clouds :) SF – *hugs* – Of course there is no ‘right’ thing to say, but I can sympathize. I feel that way too and can’t quite figure out why (and you are right, no man can fix it…I have one of those and he doesn’t help much with the restlessness). I am proud of you for seeking help and am interested to know how that goes if you don’t mind sharing. The differences between you and your uncle (I think, because you didn’t say otherwise) are that you know when to seek help, you know happiness doesn’t come from a significant other (or five), and you are able to share how you’re feeling with others, even if it’s only on a blog (which is sometimes better, because you can write uncensored and get some unbiased responses).

I try to take heart in the fact that I think there’s a lot of pressure from the media and society in general to “be happy.” I’m not entirely sure that’s reality, but it seems to be on the cover of every magazine lately (as if Cosmopolitan holds the secret to life). Honestly, how can anyone “be happy” with all that’s going on in the world? Sometimes I think happiness is a somewhat deluded marketing ploy; it’s the human condition to experience an entire range of emotions. Personally I am working more toward being satisfied; at the end of the day, I’d like to feel like I helped people at work, I have people I love in my life, I got to spend some time doing things I love (even if it’s just cross-stitching…try it sometime…so peaceful and relaxing…and productive and results-oriented…it satisfies that whole lawyer in me!), and if there’s any problems, I did something proactive toward resolving them. Sorry, not trying to take over your blog, but I just wanted you to know that you’re definitely not alone, you’re definitely not crazy, and you definitely have tons of good things to live for, even if you can’t always see them through the clouds :)

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