Unfortunately, it’s the kind of thing you’re going to have to try to push out of your mind until the actual conversation happens, which I realize is close to impossible. Sadly, I have no better advice for you, my friend. My own personal experience is that I’ve never had multiple people at once to date (I am a geek, after all), so I can’t speak from “having been there”!

But I still don’t understand him.

I think it is more a matter of what feels right to you.

I don’t think it is entirely unreasonable for him to be dating other people, and at least he was completely honest about it.

When I was doing online dating I always worried about that same thing. And I dated one guy that I was never completely sure about (and never asked him if he dated other women), and it just bothered me too much – the wondering.

And he says he isn’t sleeping with anyone else, but that could change with one date, you know?

I think you just need to keep feeling the situation out and decide what you can live with. Casual is fine, but it can’t last forever, and casual isn’t exactly what you are looking for. Of course, all relationships start out that way (or at least should), but I think you want to know that it has the possibility of going somewhere. Make sure that his end goal is similar to yours.

Its like “The Bachelor”, I guess. It is hard to truly get close to someone while knowing that he is dating other people.

Good luck!

“i think EHB sounds like a tool. i say drop it like its hot.
also, what do you like about him? of course, i could be wrong!”

I hope she doesn’t mind me sharing that, but I really appreciate people’s comments — if I didn’t want to hear anyone’s input I’d just write in my diary or whatever — so I thought that might get things started.