Just as I was waxing majorly pessimistic about my romantic status as compared with all my happily domesticated friends, it turns out that for the first time in recent memory, I have not one, but two prospective suitors.
Guy # 1, I met on Match. We had emailed a bit before my England/Paris trip, he had asked me for coffee, and I had asked for a rain check. When I got back, we met up in person for a Saturday afternoon coffee meet-and-greet. We spent two hours chatting, before I had to go meet some friends. He followed up quickly, we ended up having a long phone conversation mid-week, and the following weekend (last weekend) we had two dates — dinner and a movie on Friday and a hike and lunch on Sunday. I’m really liking this guy: we click well, we have great conversations, we have a lot in common, he has beautiful green eyes and a chin dimple, we have exchanged a couple of sweet smooches but are taking things nice and slow. He recommended a book to me and I am reading it and totally hooked. His grandpa passed away 😦 so this weekend he went home to be with his family, but he just emailed me about making a date for this week. So far, so good.
Guy # 2 I met in real life. I know, dear readers, it’s shocking. I had all but given up on my ability to meet men through any means other than the internets. So it was quite flattering that a real flesh and blood guy took an interest in the real flesh and blood me. Fancy that!
Anyway, Guy # 2 is a long story. He is friends with my friend L.’s husband and I saw him at a party they threw on Saturday night. Interestingly, I had met guy #2 for the 1st time at a party 2 years ago. At the time I was engaged and my fiance was at the party with me. Even so, L. encouraged us to talk because “you’re both lawyers!” We had a decently long chat that 1st time, mostly talking shop, but then I had to awkwardly mention the fiance (in case he hadn’t glimpsed the ring) and it was awkward. L. recently told me that he had been like “Your friend is cute and cool, but she’s engaged, what’s up with that?”
Then my fiance and I broke up, and about 6 months later I joined eHarmony, and who was one of my 1st matches, but guy # 2. I felt weird about it, and I also met someone else and we started dating, so nothing ever came of that, though L. and I would joke about it from time to time.
Then last week I allowed L. to take over control of my eHarmony account (***a story for another post!) and discovered that I had been matched with another of her husband’s friends named JM, a guy who is really sweet who I had met a few times. L., being in control of my account, closed JM and listed as her reason “Other.”
Fast forward to Saturday night, when I arrive at the party to find a semi circle of people, including JM, guy # 2, JM’s brother, and L.’s sister, all apparently discussing me. I am immediately accosted with, “You are so harsh, you close everyone on eHarmony!” I then am subjected to like 30 mins of regaling / questioning / joking about what my criteria are and why I close people (all the while protesting, “it wasn’t me! L. did it!” Guy # 2 joked that since I had closed him, I was dead to him.
As the night wore on, guy # 2 found lots of opportunities to talk to me. When I had met him 2 years ago, he had struck me as a little arrogant and a little bitter. (I learned from L. that he had just gone through a breakup, which makes sense.) Apparently the past two years have been good to him, because he was mellow and sweet, and much cuter than I had remembered him too! (He does competitive swimming and I could tell he is built like a swimmer. Yum.)
At the end of the night when he was leaving, he was a little shy (or, understandably, trying to stay away from the earshot of any of the nosy-kins at the party) and said to me quietly, “So, listen – you like to eat, right?” Yes, I like to eat, I smiled. “How about I get your number so I can call you and take you out to eat?” So the digits were handed over and he said he’d call me this week after he does a couple of big filings.
So there you have it, readers. Two promising boys, both very different in personality but I like them both in different ways. I have never successfully juggled the mens because I always say that one man is enough trouble, but here it just seems right to get to know both of them and see how things go. Obviously if things progress with one or the other, I will have to evaluate. But for now, I am just going to try to enjoy this for what it is.
I will keep you posted…
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